Estrangement

Dr. Coleman is an internationally respected psychologist helping parents reconcile with their currently estranged or alienated children.

 

He has been interviewed extensively on the
causes of estrangement and its devastating impact.

Frequently asked questions

How will we meet?


Sessions are available over phone, Zoom, Face Time, or Skype.




How soon can I see you?


I’m currently booked 4-6 weeks in advance though I can put you on my list for cancellations.




Do you accept insurance?


I don’t accept insurance, but I can provide you with a bill for your insurance company to reimburse you. If you’re outside of California, check to see if your insurance reimburses out-of-state providers for telehealth sessions.




Typical number of sessions?


For most parents, 1-3 sessions are typically enough for me to diagnose the problem and make recommendations about strategies. More sessions can be made available if desired.




What are your fees?


My current fee is $345 per 45 minute session. I accept Zelle, Venmo, Pay Pal, MasterCard, Visa and MC/VISA debit cards




What's your cancellation policy?


Unless I’m able to fill the time that was set aside for you, cancellations made less than 48 hours in advance will be charged the full fee.




Will you meet with my adult child and me?


If they agree, I typically like to have at least one session with the estranged child alone and one with the parent alone; followed by 1-4 sessions together, depending on the need.




Is there an extra charge for you to write an amends letter for me to send to my child?


Typically no, unless I need to spend time reviewing emails, legal documents, lengthy correspondence, etc. In that case, I pro-rate the time at $345 per 45 mins.




Will you reach out to my estranged adult child?


Yes, I will do it over email if I believe that it’s in your best interest. I don’t do phone calls or letters because they’re experienced as too intrusive.




How often does the adult child respond to you?


Roughly 70% of estranged adult children write back. Of that 70%, roughly 20% say they’re not interested, another 20% write a lengthy response and then say they’re not willing to do more. The remaining 60% are willing to get on the phone with me. Of those who do, I typically am able to get them to agree to a few family sessions with the parent and me, though of course, I can’t guarantee that outcome.




Is there an extra charge for your reaching out to the child over email?


No.




What does the initial session cover?


Here are common questions that we cover in the initial session: • What challenges did you face raising the child? For example, was there a divorce, parental alienation, drugs or alcohol problems on the part of either parent or the child? How about learning disabilities, Asperger's syndrome, ADD or ADHD, depression, or anxiety? Was the child adopted? If so, have they reunited with the birth parent or parents? • Was the child overly dependent, anxious or needy? • How much is your son-in-law or daughter-in-law a factor in the estrangement? What is the history of the relationship between you and your DIL or SIL? What is the relationship between you and the parents of the DIL or SIL? • What attempts have you made thus far to reach out to your child? • Do you have recent correspondence that you can forward to me so that I can get a feel for their personality or the nature of their complaints? • Have you written an amends letter and can you forward me a copy for review after our initial consult? • What was your childhood like? • If you are married, what has your marriage been like to your child’s parent? • If you are divorced, what age was your child or children at the time of the divorce? What was the custody arrangement? How did your child react to the divorce? • What is your current relationship with your ex? Do you believe that your ex has intentionally hurt your relationship with your child? • Are there other significant players in your estrangement such as your siblings, parents, friends, or your other children?




Should I prepare in advance and email in my background info?


I prefer to get all of my answers in the initial consultation meeting so I can ask follow-up questions. But, your summary is useful for me to have in my records to review for follow-up sessions.




What alternative can you provide if I can’t afford your fees?


Free Monday Q & A (sign-up on my website) Tuesday Topic Webinars Webinars cover subjects including: -How to Make Amends: the Right and Wrong Way -How to Stop Blaming Yourself and Get On With Your Life -Role of Divorce in Creating and Perpetuating Estrangement -Surviving the Holidays and Other High Risk Days -How Estrangement Affects Marriage and Friendship -Dealing With Your Difficult Daughter-in-law and Son-in-law -The Role of Mental Illness in Parental Estrangement -How to Heal the Pain of Estrangement -and many more





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