So many of the parents I work with either have no idea why their child is behaving like they are, or why they need to respond to their feelings by estranging the parent.
Estrangement evokes powerful feelings of sadness, loss, anger, guilt and helplessness. Often, a parent’s very well-intended behavior can make the situation worse. Many parents complain that when it comes to their adult children, they’re damned if they do, and damned if they don’t.
You get married. And at some point you don’t know if the marriage is going to work. And since it’s your first marriage, you feel discouraged and hopeless and start believing that your marriage looks nothing like the ones on TV or in US magazine. And you think how nice it would be to have a marriage like that, built on friendship, hiking, and an active sex life. Read More »
Dr. Joshua Coleman is an internationally known expert in parenting, families, and relationships. He is Co-Chair of the Council on Contemporary Families and is a psychologist with a private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area.