leslie, this is becoming very common. It appears you are in a crisis mode and I highly suggest you get yourself to counseling. Your son may not come home. He is likely going to punish you but he was punishing you before when he lived at your home. Its not healthy for either you or the son to be allowing his abuse or appeasing him with money. This is more of a parenting issue and maybe a codependence issue. Now is your time to stand strong. Son needs consequences. I sound harsh but consequences are important for young people to learn to live within society's boundaries. Do you want to be chained to the negativity of this young man controlling you and your wallet forever? He's angry at something, he may be focusing on you as the problem but you have to work on strengthening yourself and your emotions. He may also be using drugs or alcohol. All parents make mistakes but if we get weak when our kids need us to get strong, then everyone loses. Best wishes to you. Our ES did this a few years older than your son. It hasn't been pretty. He constantly tries to manipulate and control us but we are learning to stay strong and not be controlled or manipulated. Its been a journey. Best wishes to you.
My 16 yr old son became aggressive towards me- striking me once in face as well as punching /kicking holes in 9 doors in my home. I called his biological father to take him for a few days so everyone could calm down. His father picked him up and promptly dropped him off at his grandmothers house. It's a "free-for-all" there. No rules, no guidance, no boundaries. He refuses to come back home or even visit or talk to me, unless he wants money. i worry I have lost him forever. He repeatedly tells me he hates me. It is crushing.
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