Good morning Jenny:
Well, you and your husband have done a lot and it's not helping you or your depressed adult children. There is no pat answer here because y'all are dealing with some serious mental health issues. From my limited social work career, I understand the dynamics of suicidal ideation and attempts. Make your familial structure stronger with professional intervention, plans, hopes, love, counseling, and reasonable deadlines. I HAD to do that with my son, it was a slow, tedious but gratuitous path that worked. You have got to guide your kids toward another path, so you can help yourself.
Hi , I have two sons one aged 30 who smokes weed and drinks alcohol almost nightly but does work, he's moody and has no friends he's lost them but either arguing with them or them using harder drugs which thankfully he is not into . He tried to commit suicide last September when after being verbally abusive to me I asked him to leave , he's not on anti depressants he's trying to lay of the booze . We feel like we are walking on eggshells most of the time
Our other child is 26 1/2 and has justrecently stopped smoking weed , he's also got low self esteem and lacks confidence has never had a permanent job only works at Christmas time , he stays in his bedroom all day only visiting the kitchen for food and meals .
Me and my husband (their dad ) are coming up to retirement and have had enough we want to downshift and retire in a few years but can't seem to move forward , both our adult children blame us for everything although the both live at home and only pay a small contribution to the household bills as I can't ask for more as 1 is unemployed.
I know both are Depressed but they won't seek help ,my husband although a kind man has no real parenting skills and just wants a easy life , they have both been verbally abusive to me in the past , they blame me for everything,
how do I help them grow up
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