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January 6, 2013
6:42 pm

 Wow, Broken... that really speaks to the pain, anger and utter devastation we all feel.  We all need to draw support and express our rollercoaster of emotions.  Thank you.

January 3, 2013
8:35 pm

Yes, I wrote it.  It's the only way I can deal with this.

January 2, 2013
8:54 pm


That reflected the harm done by ex to the lives of our children, me, and both of our families near and far . . .

Where did this come from? I mean, did you write it?

Thank you.


January 2, 2013
9:06 am

There are a million ways to break a heart

It’s hard to stop it once it starts

With poison sickens instantly

And takes its wrath for all to see

Or slowly eats away the soul

With years of thoughts that never go

The words flow fast that kill the warm

Satisfaction with the spray of harm

No way to thwart those things so deep

Spikes in the heart so long to keep

No healing comes to wounds so fine

No way to argue for what is mine

The pain from heart too great to bear

No referee to make it fair

Set apart, but set to blame

Aware of where the poison came

Subtle tricks set out to kill

A love that once gave heart a fill

Insidious comes the mind control

To fill an confused and angry soul

No way to douse the raging hate

Or turn the tide of sadist state

The winner only sits with smile

Deep down knowing all the while

Manipulation won the day

Dark seeds planted in covert way

January 2, 2013
9:02 am

Dear Pain Shared and Dianne,

I too share the struggle that you are both going through.  I don't understand how or why the children we've raised treat us like this.  There was no abuse or issues my daughter had when she was being raised.  Everything was good and people around us don't understand either.  I have to say that I see this behavior becoming more and more familiar and we must be there for one another.  Knowing that there are others with the same questions and feelings I have helps me cope better also.  Please continue to share on this page so we can help one another.  The hurt we're endearing is so unfair and we need to know there are other's out there with the same feelings.  Let's make 2013 a better year.


January 1, 2013
4:32 pm

Hello Diane:

My first time here and it may be my lifeline.  I'm the mom in a classic parental alienation divorce many years ago.  My eldest son and I went round and round, with me trying to explain my side of the split, to no avail.  After nearly 2 years, I thought things were better (on the surface).  But here we are right back at it with the help of a DIL who's taken up the poison my ex started.

I feel myself giving up.  The army is too big and too relentless.  The further the riff, the happier she is, as is the ex, a sadist.  I just found this website and maybe it will help.  I've never been this despondent before.  Now the next generation is starting, and my grandchildren are pulling away.  I'm not sure I can continue.  The disrespect, insults and inflammatory lies are outweighing life.

This is all so wrong and so unfair.  My biggest issue is understanding the cruelty.  Where did it come from?  Where is the compassion?  Don't they know they are killing us?

December 6, 2012
3:28 am

I've been up since 4 in the morning unable to sleep because I can't believe I haven't seen my son or granddaughter for 6 months and will not be seeing them at Christmas. We have been excluded by a daughter-in-law who wants nothing to do with us, and therefore does not want our son to as well. I'm looking at a pile of unwrapped Christmas presents in the corner of my dining room. On top of the pile is a beautiful dress I bought for my 2 and 1/2 year old granddaughter that I know she will never wear or even see. I hide my pain because its just too embarrassing to tell people that your son no longer bothers with you at his wife wishes. We have a daughter as well. She was always close to her brother...we were such a happy family and I am at a loss as to how to fix this. We've tried apologizing (for what we don't know), sending cards and messages but nothing. I spent for days in hospital 3 months ago and yet did not receive a call from my son. I'm not looking forward to Christmas but will put on a happy face for my daughter, son-in-law, and grandson. I thought my daughter-in-law was a good person who cared about us and our family but since having a child things changed. We were no longer included in events or holidays. If we planned something for our family we were told they would come only to be called at the last minute saying something came up and they couldn't make it. This has been going on for the past few years when suddenly 8 months ago they called us up out of the blue and started yelling and screaming at us...we up to that point had never even had an argument. If we did call our son he always put it on speaker phone. We can't write him...she's been know to throw out the mail, and read his phone and test messages. I don't know how to put my family back together. She makes a point to make sure she is nice to extended family and friends so that it appears we are wrong about her. They literally drove by our house last Christmas morning to go to our brother-in-laws before even coming here, ate dinner at left shortly afterward. I would just like to skip the holidays altogether.

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