i have experienced the same thing throughout the years with my husband and step children. Of course, it was my problem too. The only advice I can give is to really seek out that counseling because it is not you. your marriage will end if you do not. My step-children abused me and their father. He refused to discipline them also. His step daughter at age 12 or 13 was abusive to my son who was then 3. She even took a water hose and sprayed him with water in the winter time. Even into her adult hood she is horrible because she was never disciplined. We paid for her college, car insurance, health insurance, and other things and she never thanked us, but only asked for more. I finally gave her my two cents as an adult and we haven't spoken in three years. My husband acted as if it were my problem and now takes our children over there at Xmas and other occasions while I stay home. It's his kid, I get it and would do it too. But it really is not fair and you have NO OTHER WAY than to take care of it now before it ruins your family and your marriage.
Best Wishes and God Bless!
I'm having issues in my marriage that stem from my husband and my stepson. My husband is not one to "parent". He has always treated his son as a "friend", even when very young (he is now 10). My stepson is very disrespectful, to everyone, not just myself. My husband will *sometimes* correct his behaviour, but not nearly enough. My stepson feels he has the right to dictate everyone else's behaviour, and my husband basically tiptoes around him and gives in.
I can only stand so much. We have a 4-year-old daughter who I don't want to learn this negative behaviour. I am tired of being disrespected and keep pulling away from my stepson. Of course, when my husband sees this, then I am in the enemy and the one with the problem.
I don't know what to do at this point. I have just called to set up a counselling session for myself to work things out on what I need to do, but I wanted to see if anyone else has encountered this situation.
At this point, I feel like the only way my husband will be happy is if I "kiss up to" his son, and I will NOT kiss up to a 10-year-old. I expect his behaviour to be the same as what I expect my daughter's behaviour to be, and if I won't accept disrespect from her, why should I from him?
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