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Sending regrets to a grandchilds wedding invitation
July 29, 2014
2:32 pm
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Isobel said
I would value an opinion on whether or not I should send regrets to a step grandchilds wedding invitation.  Their has been an ongoing hostile family issue for 9 years.  ....  Family members live within a few miles of us,  they never call their grandfather or come to see him.

If you don't mind my asking, what happened nine years ago to cause the hostility? It may have some bearing on what you should do.

July 25, 2014
10:17 am
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Isobel, I certainly can understand what you are going through and feeling and my heart goes out to you.  You say you dearly love these children so since it is their day could it be possible for you to put your own feelings aside and attend the wedding for the sake of your grandchild.  It may be just what is needed to bring some peace.  If you find that the atmosphere becomes hostile say at the reception you can always leave early.  At least you will know you gave it a try and I am sure your granddaughter will always remember.  While I can suggest what I would do, you need to do what makes you feel comfortable.  My best to you.

July 25, 2014
2:16 am
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I would value an opinion on whether or not I should send regrets to a step grandchilds wedding invitation.  Their has been an ongoing hostile family issue for 9 years.  This is my second marriage, but I have been with this family for 28 years but only married in the last 6 years.  Everything was fine until I married the Father/Grandfather.  Family members live within a few miles of us,  they never call their grandfather or come to see him.  Two children in the same family are getting married, I was not invited to any of the engagement parties or to the bridal shower.  I dearly love these children as I have know them since birth, but I feel that it is the parents who are manipulating things.  I do not wish to cause the bride or groom any stress on their wedding day but I get tied up in knots just thinking of the hostile atmosphere there will be towards me.  I have started to write a letter to the bride and groom, briefly giving an explanation, I told her I loved her and always will and that it was a heartbreaking decision for me to make.   I have not yet mailed the letter.   I would value your opinion on this

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