that's terrible about the sexual abuse all around, but from what you write, it appears that it wasn't your fault. Im wondering if it's something else since your son refused to invite you to his wedding but had his dad there? does the dad have more money than you??..I hate to say it, but all my friends agree, the younger generation is all about the money!! don't worry about it, I'm discovering that the mothers, the givers, seem to be the parent that a lot of kids resent. it's because we're too soft so they feel they can kick us around, like kicking the dog. they're plain and simply - bullies! get tough - let your son come to you...!! and dont feel guilty - enjoy the wait!
I was married 24 years to the father of my children. It was an abusive marriage. I worked, he didn't. He was abusive, I played referee. I made my mistakes. He cheated, drank, did as he pleased as I worked hard to keep a family of 5 going. Making money to give my children most of what they desired. I finally divored the father of my children and he went off living with several of women as I struggled to still keep a roof over their heads. I remarried, and made the biggest mistake of my life. Married a man who didn't want me, but married me because of my daughter. It came out 5 years later, that he emotional sexually abused her. She never told me a word. She was between 12 and 16 when it happened. She did tell her older brothers. My middle son just go married and everyone was invited, except for me. There was no \"official\" reason given for this, other then \"I just wasn't invited.\" Everyone ignored the fact that I wasn't. I ask my son once and received no answer. Conclusion, it was the sexual abuse I had no idea about that caused the alienation towards me by them. I am dealing with it, but I don't understand the implications towards me. My daughter knows and admits that it was wrong for her not to tell me about the abuse, but ... I don't know. I never drank, did drugs, but made other mistakes, driven by panic to get out of my marriage with their dad. I am not looking to be judged by anyone who reads this, just maybe someone can lay out for me what happened here. I apologized many times for the decision marrying a man who sexually was attracted to my daughter, its not that I knew about it and just was in denial over it. I don't see a solution to reunite with my son who just married, but how can I get him to talk to me? Please help me with a solution or an explanation, why my children love their father, who was involved in many affairs, one including with his own sister, and refused to work for 24 years. I am not bitter, just need answers. Thank you!
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