Our daughter has also gotten married without telling us. We found out by friends seeing her last name changed on Facebook. We have not heard from her for about 8 months now. She had been drifting away from the family since High school, we thought that it was middle child/teenage girl problems. We never in a million years thought that this would be our family situation. She is a straight A student, top of her college class, so any struggling she had, we now know was social. She never had any real girlfriends for long, but always got along with guys as friends and had a long time relationship with her boyfriend.
We helped her move far away to go to graduate school, which she changed her mind, not realizing that she was planning on cutting us out of her life. Not only are her parents and brothers cut out, but the entire family, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents on both sides of the family.
We are lost and hurt............
Dear Father and Throw,
I get you. I found out about my daughter's marriage when a friend sent me copies of her facebook pages.
Nothing she does could surprise me at this point. She is a stranger.
I have to say that judging by what I saw I should be grateful to be out of the milieu.
I thought I couldn't live without her but in truth I've been much happier and calmer since the estrangement. It seemed she was always guarded and vigilant around me and now I understand she has been leading a completely different life than the one she showed to me. I never asked her to lie. I have always been supportive of others' choices, even if those choices wouldn't be ones I would make. Still, I hope she's happy in her life. I think of her with love every day.
Dear Father of Six,
I can relate, I too am not invited to my daughter's wedding and I secretly break down in my bathroom everyday and the pain is unbearable. I've never prayed so hard in my life. This is going to kill me. I'm not invited not because I was a bad mother or any "fight" we had. I just don't fit in to the appearances she wants to portray to her new inlaws I guess or her father whom I have been divorced from for 29 years has asked her not to invite me, one or the other but it sure has made me loose faith in humanity. I am just dumbfounded at the depth of depravaity that some people can stoop to.
I can only pray that someday these children will see the error of their ways and snap out of it. Being a spiritual person, I know that the only way to learn lifes leasons is to live and give and act in love. These kids are so lost on that.
Hang in their Father of Six, the fact that you are in pain shows me you don't deserve this.
Can't even describe the pain
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