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My Third Marriage Will Not Survive Because of This:
September 14, 2014
3:35 pm
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Karoline
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I was married for 8years with out any child,because of this my husband start acting very strange at home,coming home late and not spending time with me any more.So i became very sad and lost in life because my doctor told me there is no way for me to get pregnant this really make life so hard for me and my family.my sister in law told me about Prophet Osaze from the Internet,how he has helped people with this similar problem that i am going through so i contacted him and explain to him.he cast a spell and it was a miracle three days later my husband can back to apologize for all he has done and told me he is fully ready to support me in any thing i want,few month later i got pregnant and gave birth to twins (girls) we are happy with ourselves. Thanks to Prophet Osaze for saving my relationship and for also saving others too. continue your good work, If you are interested to contact him and testify this blessings like me, the great spell caster email address:"spirituallove @ hotmail. com"

March 11, 2014
6:30 am
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Hi,

I'm sorry to read your story. I wonder why your daughter decided to text with that message after 5 years of your third marriage, what made it matter at that moment in time.

I hope that you have found someone to talk to professionally, it is a pain that their hours conflict with working hours for most people. 

I don't think it seems like your daughter is rejecting the person you are married to just now, but she may be starting to open up to herself and you about where she felt she fitted in to your life when you separated from her father. I imagine it was difficult for all of you, and it is hard for anyone outside the relationship (of you and her father) to understand the full picture of why separation was the right option for you and for her. 

I hope you haven't separated from your current husband who you seem to love and respect. It seemed from what you wrote that he is good for you and offers you the love and support you need. I don't think it's a good idea to punish yourself for your daughter's feelings by separating from your husband, it will not help with your daughter's pain and will only add to yours. You might feel like you deserve it, but it's not a healthy way to cope with the breakdown of communication with your daughter. 

I wonder if you and your daughter have ever talked about what happened with her father now that she is an adult and whether you were able to listen to each other and empathise with the other's situation. Sending a text to say something big and saying it in a short way might be because of the internal tension that your daughter may have been feeling and not knowing what else to say. Thanksgiving to Christmas is a stressful time of year and highlights family relationships. 

Your daughter is obviously in a lot of pain, and I imagine you are too. I wonder whether a joint counselling appointment is something you and your daughter would both consider, or writing a letter to each other with everything you would want to say and ask? 

I wonder why you say you should never have become a parent. Some people say that being a parent offers people more opportunities to make mistakes than anything else. I always think that a good parent does not mean making the fewest mistakes, it means teaching our children how to love and be loved.

My thoughts are with you.

December 3, 2013
6:44 am
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Giba
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I've been feeling so guilty ever since my 26 year old daughter texted me at Thanksgiving that she is "done with me for good".  I know it is because of my two divorces and my remarriage 5 years ago.  (To the most wonderful man in the world who is sweet and kind to me and has made me so happy.)  She told me so in a scathing text that read: YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED 3 TIMES.  YOU CHOOSE MEN OVER ME. 

I won't go into any of my past marital history because it doesn't matter.  No matter how bad I describe these marriages, she was the one who was hurt.  I'll never forget her sad, tearful face the day I said goodbye to her father.  I told her it was for the best even though it broke her heart.  I should have stayed and taken it all for her sake.  I never should have remarried.  Now, the same pain and grief she endured is coming back to finish me off.  Just deserts for being a selfish mom.  Now my daughter: my only child has divorced me.  I get to see what it feels like.  And it hurts.  Just like she will never heal from my mistakes and the hurt of a broken family, I will spend the rest of my life regretting what I did to her and live the rest of my life in pain missing her.  Now we are both in pain.  I have decided I can't live in the relationship I'm in now.  There is no fullfillment knowing how my daughter feels.  I have to divide my loyalty between husband and my daughter and it just feels wrong.  There is no way out except to end this in divorce too.  I have so much anger, bitterness and pain that even if I am alone and my daughter comes back to me because I am single again, I am too weak and broken to give her the love she deserves.  I tried contacting a therapist to talk to through my employee assistance program but none of them can see me; they're either booked up or their hours are only during my work hours: a sign that I am meant to suffer this pain alone.  I should have never become a parent, but I did.  G-U-I-L-T-Y.

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