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Never seen grandchildren
January 28, 2018
12:55 am
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Kim A
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This reply is to Dave the grandfather who hasn't met his 2 grandkids. I just joined this forum. I raised my 1st grandchild for 7 years my daughter "woke up 1 day" and decided to be a mother. My husband and I had a huge argument with her, and we put the house rules down. Follow the house rules or get the "blank" out. She took our grandchild, moved 2,500 miles away. She has since moved in with a new boyfriend and had another baby. I now have a grandchild I will never meet. Dr. Coleman is correct this is an epidemic. Grandparents need to stick together and pray for our adult children. These adult children are spoiled brats and with social media where you can write and post anything you want and have   No Consequences to your words  is causing so much pain. I haven't spoke to my daughter in over 2 years. I do know where Shen lives and I have read all the lies that she posted about me o. Social media, it was shocking and extremely painful at first and now I expect lies to be told about me. It's difficult because I love my daughter and grandchild but as of today I'm not sure I will help my daughter in anyway in the future. I've been hurt to the core and I cannot allow that type of pain again. Its shocking how my adult child threw it back in my face that I worked 50 hours per week... really, that's what happens when you have bills to pay and not live off welfare....

I have a lot of medical problems and most likely I won't be alive in 15 years due to health reasons. All grandparents have rights.  I don't have the answers it just nice to know I'm not alone... not that I would want anyone to be astra he's from there children, it's so hurtful to see how common it's becoming.... peace to all. 

November 27, 2017
3:47 pm
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Penni
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Hi Dave, I read your heartbreaking story, so sorry! I'm kind of in your situation... My son use to call several times a week, and we have kept our two oldest grandkids since they were infants. Then they had our youngest grandson four years ago, we didn't keep him like the oldest, due to my health. Well Ill try to make this short, my daughter n law has taking opioid's each pregnancy, and tried to hide it, and my son jumped all over me for truly being concerned with this last pregnancy, because she came to our house in a rage saying she needed Vicodin, and I said to her then oh honey you don't want to take that being pregnant. Then after that is when she started withholding the oldest grandkid's from us even the youngest. Now they have the new baby several months back, no phone call or text to say they had her, its heartbreaking. I really think my sons wife is brainwashing him, and working on the grandkids we have not seen now for close to 8 months, we had the two oldest at least 3-4 days every week, took them to school, really gave them stability, but most of all genuine love. I pray for you Dave, and all grandparents that are going thru this heartache. I believe God will have his justice!! I truly wish the courts would do more to help the grandparent's & grandchildren, they should be heard, they have feelings,and get put in the middle.... So very sad for all.. RESPECT4PARENTS&GRANPARENTS

November 23, 2017
4:54 am
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Dave Furey
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Hi, Is there anyone on the globe who hasn't met their grandchildren?  My oldest child (33 son) hasn't talked to me in about 8 years now, because of something he heard I said? At least, that's the way it was explained to me by my youngest son (29). I have No cell number, No address, No email etc. I have two granddaughters and nether him or his wife have never called to tell me they were born, nothing!  I have never met ANYONE in my situation. They are, I think about 4 years old and 2 years old.  His mother decided to leave and go to Florida when they were 11 and 6. Pot, booze, drugs, boyfriend, the whole 9 yards. I had custody and worked 6 days a week to raise them and make ends meet.  My youngest and I love each other and him and his sweetheart of a wife are wonderful. On the other hand, the oldest became out of control at about 16, wouldn't go to school, dropped out, came home when he felt like it and I warned him for about a year to knock off his shit, do what your told to do and be responsible, LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE WHO LIVES IN THE HOUSE!  He did not and after the police called when he was 18 and told me he was running around outside the Cafeteria in a jock strap and hat in the winter, I said pack your shit and get out. Warned him and told him for a year that if you don't like it here, go live with your Mother, a friend or the State. Always gave him 3 options.  We were talking before this and I even visited him in the Netherlands with his 2nd wife. He's now back with the first wife and has the kids with her. In closing, I WOULD RATHER BE DEAD THAN EVER DISRESPECT MY PARENTS.  So again, I have never bumped into anyone who has NEVER met their grandchildren?  Happy Thanksgiving to all.   Respect4Dad

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