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Erased with alot of help from her friends
October 7, 2019
11:31 pm

I'm a Grandmother now but my relationship headed south a long time ago in 2002 . I was in another state on a family emergency for my father and my daughter asked if a friend she was hanging out with a new friend could stay at the house until I got back and I said ok. How these two met when I asked was a lie.  The girl was an illegal immigrant on the run and abandoned by her own parents for outing them to us and they threw her out . She was making a living in gentlemens clubs and when I came home had the audacity to call me a racist .

I don't have a racist bone in my body . We were talking about why some people steal. Daughter vanished with this girl and they wind up roommates. One time over the phone as calm as I can be I could hear the girl in the background telling my daughter ; Tell her I'm taking care of you now. Fast forward to around 2010 . My daughter had a child out of a non marital relationship . His mother told us he suffers from multiple mental illnesses and does not take prescribed meds instead self medicates with beer, wine , pot. Daughter fled his home and stayed with me with her son for 7 months. I allowed his family and him to have the babys first birthday party at my home per daughters request. Upon their departure the childs father yelled at me telling me his family does everything for my daughter . Again I am some sort of neglectful mom. I beg to differ but I did without many times and sacrificed as a single parent alone with a functional disability to raise her .  

That family eagerly searched apartments for her , put up the money and moved her out. Pardon me for helping her find work get more education , prepare to relocate get a car and be a confident single mom. Instead there she was in a run down place with chalisey   windows in - 20 degree weather and a baby . Child support ? None. Why not? Childs father told her please don't file my family will be deported. Not so . He was born here his father was not. Nothing will happen . So where is she working ? Strip clubs. This gets better. Another blessing is born. A nice jail cop who physically abuses her because she says she will go back to work at the club. We are in Nov 2012 now. She comes home and i help get her into a private home with therapy / counseling and her children and she visit me daily for lunch , dinner or both . 

She checks out of this treatment place. First borns father lures her into going to live with him now that his family has given him $87,000 cash for a two flat . He now makes money off tenants and my daughter hurrying her to go find work . He puts a key under the stairs for her but wont give her one to hold. So I have limited visits with both of my grandchildren now because he is the "caregiver" . My 2012 born granddaughter tells me he is taking showers with her and kissing her while in his care. My grandson 2009 born child tells me he does not want to go back home because his father repeatedly punishes him . We have a bond. But he is told constantly that if he does not obey his father he will never see me again. And he stopped all of my family from just that . 

I take my grandchild to the ER she has been telling me more and more. Protective services closed the case. Forensic interview failure. Did not matter what she told me  the ER nurse or any witnesses . As a result I took it to court. Dismissed every time I wrote a new law and it is found by google search SB2498. Did I get to see them yet? No. Why ? Burden of proof section . Page 3 line 15 . A judge can consider a childs wishes but children are treated like veterans and we never get to the point of consideration and compassion . Wasted $10,000 . No one will win until burden of proof language is rewritten .

It needs elements added to it or it needs to be abolished. So I now am pending a meeting with a state rep to determine if this section is a federal or state law because every educated legislator I have asked about this is clueless . My work is not done. I had cardiac arrest Aug 26 . In September I had someone drive me to my daughters  where I already showed up in August and was allowed to see my granddaughter and new grandson who is another mans child who I do not know but have seen once. After that visit my emails were blocked. Oh yes in 2017 she emailed me after i wrote and told her I dreamed she had a baby maybe it was my grandchildren who I miss . She said she wants me in her life and the kids lives. But then says she needs more time. 5 yrs is a long long time. I was thrown out when I arrived Sept 22 . I brought some home made foods and soups and had hoped she would at least take the items but she said to leave and shut the slider door in my face and drew the blinds locked the door . 

Her sons father is enabled by his own father . They like this . My biggest issue is I am giving in to people who want to be the center of my grandchidrens universe. Oh my granddaughters father remarried and calls his spouse her stepmom. Stepmom has opened Dads emails in the past from me and aggressively answered . So why not take it to court ? Afterall Grandparents have already established legal paternity over fathers who never have. Your thoughts ? 

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