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I can't bear to talk about the estrangement
June 30, 2015
2:22 pm


My 31 yr old son has been in a abusive relationship with a 34 yr old woman. She thinks we are not good enough for her, or have enough money. My son and i were always close. I divorced his father after he cheated after 20 yrs of marriage.I am now remarried. Gradually he became distant . He did break up with the girl, both his father and i gave him money for an apartment (he lives 4 hrs away) During that brief break up period , i thought we had him back to the way he was.He apparently never got the apartment, and instead stopped talking to me and his sister.He occasionally talks to his dad, because his dad encourages him to stay in this relationship.He never was close to his dad, but he has been confiding in him and i think the dad doesnt want to lose this.  I must be blocked from his cellphone and email. I am heart broken, ashamed, embarrassed.  This may sound terrible, but all i hope for is a permanent breakup, as everything was fine until this girl came into the picture. I never said anything bad about her even during the multiple breakups.Oh, i can go on and on.But I cry every night, and morning and occasionally during the day. I have been trying to get an appointment with a counselor. I feel sick all day long. All i have is hope an prayers to keep me going.

June 29, 2015
9:31 am
Totally Blindside

It's been about six years since our son (only child) announced he wanted nothing more to do with anyone in our family.  (We were a fairly "typical" family prior to his marriage)

I keep thinking that at some point I'll be ready to talk about it.  It is just so painful and depressing.  His anger seems to have been directed more and more over time at me.  I suspect it's because I am more passive and more of a peacemaker than others in the family. He has said, "You just always want things to be peaceful, that's not me."  I'm am becoming more and more isolated, as I just can't bear the qustions from others.  I do seek peace, and just don't want anymore verbal assults from him or his wife.  Maybe my avoidance of attempting any more contact is just an unwillingness to be hurt anymore.  Anyone else reacting  like this?


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