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Forming support group or meetup for estranged children
January 2, 2017
2:46 pm
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HurtingForever said

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Hi there --- I'm so sorry for your ...

Hey, Jen:

I have spent quite some time pondering this. Here is my concern: I had been on another support site for estranged adult children, and sad to say that one of the women on there became so desperately attached to me to the point that it was very disturbing & upsetting and  I regrettably had to let go of her, too.

I don't think anyone can understand the terribly severe anguish that both estranged parents and estranged children carry at all times. We need family so badly, the safety and comfort of family, that we can kind of, well, go off the deep-end, so to speak.

So, it's a trust issue, which really is at the heart of all of this, all of this estrangement. We cannot trust our families or other people not to hurt us beyond repair. hi

It is sooooo sad, so pointless, to have toliv

August 31, 2016
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Look for forums for adult children of abusers, or for children of a specific kind of abuser: alcoholics, narcissists, borderlines, etc. These groups are large and many of the members are either estranged or on their way to estrangement.

August 29, 2016
11:42 am
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Hi,

 

I realize I'm a little late to the game, but did anything ever come of this support group.  I have interest in joining as well.  

There seems to be many supports groups for parents, but I'm struggling to find anything for the adult children.

Shelly

June 30, 2016
5:44 pm
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there is "reddit raised by narcissists" for adult children, many of whom are not in contact with narc parents for their own positive mental strength

there is also a reddit thread about horrible mother in laws in general, can't remember the name

there is "wisewomenunited" for parents (mostly women) or daughter in laws

try googling support groups for estranged adult children

stay on here and offer your voice from the estranged adult child's perspective -- yes it is helpful!

Good luck!

June 30, 2016
11:29 am
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I am struggling to find a support group for adult children who have decided to cut their parents out of their lives. I find it disturbing how many websites there are for parents who are estranged from their kids. Anybody have resources I could check out?

May 6, 2016
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What I do during the Holidays is be good to myself and treat myself such as gym, beautiful salad,, wear makeup, plant things, anything you like to ease the emotional pain of alienation. Good Comedies DVD's from library really helps. Tyler Perry films are about toxic people and are comedies and make you laugh with an important lesson in them. One called, The Family that Preys together is really good. Actually all of his films are comedies and he exposes toxic families in a humorous way so you can laugh because you can relate. Also I Love Lucy tapes are good clean comedy. Epsom Salt Baths are relaxing. Camomile Tea is to sleep, also Melatonin is natural and helps you relax.

July 10, 2012
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[email protected] 

@HurtingForever

 

Hi there --- I'm so sorry for your ...

Hey, Jen:

I have spent quite some time pondering this. Here is my concern: I had been on another support site for estranged adult children, and sad to say that one of the women on there became so desperately attached to me to the point that it was very disturbing & upsetting and  I regrettably had to let go of her, too.

I don't think anyone can understand the terribly severe anguish that both estranged parents and estranged children carry at all times. We need family so badly, the safety and comfort of family, that we can kind of, well, go off the deep-end, so to speak.

So, it's a trust issue, which really is at the heart of all of this, all of this estrangement. We cannot trust our families or other people not to hurt us beyond repair.

It is sooooo sad, so pointless, to have to live like this.

July 4, 2012
10:20 am
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Hi there --- I'm so sorry for your pain and, trust me, I know how it feels. It's heartbreaking on one hand, but te good news is that you can heal. Take comfort in knowing that you are not alone. There are many of us out there that feel like you do.

I'd love to put together an online forum for adult children who have chosen to disconnect from their families (for whatever reason). Let's keep in touch on this!

My name is Jen. Feel free to email me at jav4429@yahoo.com.

Take care,

Jen

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July 4, 2012
10:17 am
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Hi!

It's wonderful to see your message, and I'd love to be involved in your group. I live in Michigan, though. What do you think about getting an online forum together as one first step toward bringing people like us together? I'd love to help make that happen.

My family situation is very difficult and has been for most of my life. It's very toxic. My dad passed away and things with my mom (and other extended family members) are quite negative. I've always felt a bit estranged and now believe it's time to really disconnect.

Feel free to email me at jav4429@yahoo.com.

Looking forward to staying in touch!

Jen

July 2, 2012
2:25 pm
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I am interested in creating a support group for people like myself -- adult children who choose to be ...

 

Your proposal is very interesting and one that I and others have wished could happen. I need a family! Unfortunately, I live on the other side of the continent and am unable to travel for several reasons.

 

But there are a lot of us ECs out here who are grieving and alone due to toxic, abusive families. If only we could gather together and take care of each other...

June 19, 2012
10:38 pm
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I am interested in creating a support group for people like myself -- adult children who choose to be estranged from their parents.  As others have mentioned, "for every estranged parent, there is an estranged child." Our reasons are legitimate but we still need support.

Some may wish to pursue the painful path of being united in some (if fractured) way; others may want to get through the major holidays in peace (mother's day, father's day, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc etc); others may worry about the end-of-life care for their estranged families; others may be looking to learn how to forgive; others might be concerned about how their estrangement affects their other personal or professional relationships and happiness.

Relationships are one of the most important parts of life. So let's talk about it. Please let me know if you are interested in meeting in the San Francisco area in late July or early August.

Here's a cheer for self-improvement and working towards the impossible.

H

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