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Tag Archives: conflict resolution
Advice for Couples: Self-Soothing
One of the most important behaviors that you have to learn to be in a couple is the ability to soothe yourself when you get hurt or provoked. If you grew up in a family that was chaotic or where there was ongoing neglect or abuse, this will likely require more effort on your part [...]
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“I Can’t Stand The Man My Learning Disabled Daughter Will Marry! What Should I Do?”
Dear Dr. Coleman,
Our 21 yr old just announced she is getting married in 5 months (not pregnant) to her 2 yr companion and addict boyfriend. We dislike him and his family-there is nothing positive to say about him. We have always had a good relationship with her (so I thought) until this guy came into [...]
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What Do Kids Really Think About Their Working Parents?
On Feb 10th, I was on Fem2.0 Blog Radio with host Ellen Galinsky and guest Lisa Belkin. Ellen Galinsky is President and Co-Founder of the Families and Work Institute and author of the forthcoming book, MINDS IN THE MAKING: The Seven Essential Skills Every Child Must Learn (HarperStudio). Lisa Belkin is a New York Times [...]
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Sesame Street
Shifting Roles During the Economic Downturn
Posted in Economic Downturn, Recommended Links Also tagged anxiety, arguments, changing roles, communication, depressed mothers, Economic Downturn, effect on masculinity, effect on the family, fathers, gender, housework, lazy husband, Marriage, masculinity, men and housework, recession, resolving conflicts, worry about child Leave a comment
Fighting in Front of the Children
Many parents worry about whether they’re hurting their kids by fighting in front of them. Join Dr. Coleman on View from the Bay as he discusses the Do’s and Don’ts!
Diane Rehm Show: Estranged Parents
NPR: Diane Rehm: Estranged Parents: Interview with Dr. Coleman on his book WHEN PARENTS HURT: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along
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Why Do Marriages Fail?
Lack of communication and not spending time are two ways to thoroughly damage an otherwise healthy relationship.
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Dealing with an Affair
Twins Magazine
Dr. Coleman,
I am a mother of two young boys. I recently discovered that my husband has been having an affair with someone he works with for the past few months. When I confronted him about it, he promised to break it off and said it isn’t serious. I’m in shock because I [...]
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My Partner Will Not Respect Me
If your spouse is critical, verbally abusive, or an overall poor communicator, the first thing you need to do is get his or her attention.
NY Times: Working Women Say Their Marriage Is Richer For It 
NPR On Point with Tom Ashbrook
Advice for Couples: How to Ruin Your Sex Life