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Sex Addiction: Is it For Real?
There was a good article recently in The New York Times titled, “When is It Sex Addiction?” The article featured 3 experts weighing in on what distinguishes sexual addiction from simple opportunistic behavior. Personally, I’m a little bored by politicians and celebrities hiding behind the language of disease processes to defend their actions. In the [...]
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Advice for Couples: How to Ruin Your Sex Life
1) Never go out on dates.
2) When you do go out on dates, talk about all of the problems that exist in your partner or your relationship.
3) Criticize your partner’s body. Men, you’ll find this especially effective if you’d like a bad sex life with your wife or girlfriend.
4) Bring up a conflict shortly before [...]
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Survivor Guilt: Common reason for self-sabotage
Many people wonder why they sometimes do the exact behavior that is the most hurtful to them: sabotage relationships, not going after what they want, staying confused about where they are with their money. A common reason is feeling guilty about having a better life than the people that you grew up with. If you [...]
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Advice for Couples: Self-Soothing
One of the most important behaviors that you have to learn to be in a couple is the ability to soothe yourself when you get hurt or provoked. If you grew up in a family that was chaotic or where there was ongoing neglect or abuse, this will likely require more effort on your part [...]
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Girls’ Sports Matter
Some parents wonder about whether high school athletics serve any long-term purpose. Apparently, for high school girls they do. According to a recent study cited in the NYT’s by columnist Tara Parker-Pope, women who competed in high school sports, did better later in life in terms of health, education, and economics than girls who didn’t [...]
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What Do Kids Really Think About Their Working Parents?
On Feb 10th, I was on Fem2.0 Blog Radio with host Ellen Galinsky and guest Lisa Belkin. Ellen Galinsky is President and Co-Founder of the Families and Work Institute and author of the forthcoming book, MINDS IN THE MAKING: The Seven Essential Skills Every Child Must Learn (HarperStudio). Lisa Belkin is a New York Times [...]
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Shifting Roles During the Economic Downturn
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Diane Rehm Show: Estranged Parents
NPR: Diane Rehm: Estranged Parents: Interview with Dr. Coleman on his book WHEN PARENTS HURT: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don't Get Along
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Talking with Kids About Infidelity
What do you tell your kids when they find out that one of their parents has had an affair? How does the discover of an affair affect a child? Can families ever recover?
Listen to the recording of Dr. Coleman and psychotherapist Susan Berger, MFT on Childhood Matters Radio with host Rona Renner KISS 98.1FM San [...]
NY Times: Working Women Say Their Marriage Is Richer For It 
NPR On Point with Tom Ashbrook
Telling the Children That You Are Going to Divorce