If your marriage or relationship is struggling with the aftermath of an affair, read Dr. Coleman’s article in Greater Good Magazine. Many relationships can be saved after an affair, but it requires that both people work hard to heal the relationship. This article shows you the steps you need to take in order to do that. It also discusses when to consider giving up. Greater Good Magazine is part of the Greater Good Science Center, at the University of California, Berkeley.
I am a mother of two young boys. I recently discovered that my husband has been having an affair with someone he works with for the past few months. When I confronted him about it, he promised to break it off and said it isn’t serious. I’m in shock because I thought we had a really good marriage, and now I have no idea what kind of marriage I have. He seems really sincere about changing. I also feel guilty because I haven’t felt very sexual since my kids were born. Help.
I’m sorry to hear about your situation. There are several themes that come up in your letter: 1) can you trust your husband? 2) how do you heal? 3) do you have any “responsibility” for his affair? Let’s look at these individually. Read More »
Dr. Joshua Coleman is an internationally known expert in parenting, families, and relationships. He is Co-Chair of the Council on Contemporary Families and is a psychologist with a private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area.