Today Show: Being in Love

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TODAY SHOW: When Parents Hurt

Dr. Coleman was on the Today Show July 6th, talking about parental estrangement. Click here to view the segment.

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BOOK REVIEW: “Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex,” Amy Schalet, Ph.D.

The notion of a rebellious teen driven by hormones and an undeveloped brain is so much a part of our ongoing cultural narrative that we assume its universality. But, what if this construction of adolescence is more cultural than universal?

In a fascinating new book, Not Under My Roof: Parents, Teens, and the Culture of Sex, University of Massachusetts sociologist Amy Schalet examines this question by asking both American and Dutch parents the question: “Would you ever let your teenager’s boyfriend or girlfriend sleep over?” She finds that while the vast majority of parents here say no way, the vast majority of parents there give a qualified yes.

Oh, those Dutch, you say. With their hashish cafes, their acceptance of prostitution, their non-punitive approach to drug addiction. Of course they’re going to be loose about that. What aren’t they loose about? And yet, as Schalet demonstrates, the Dutch attitude toward the sleepover (like their more tolerant approach to adolescent alcohol use) reveals a very careful and measured approach to parenting.

And that approach reveals fundamental differences in how our two cultures view the construction of the individual and the role of society at large. These differences are especially interesting because there are many ways that the two cultures are quite similar:  Like us, the Dutch developed a governmental system based on a liberation from an outside power (Spain, in their case), have powerful middle classes, experienced a sexual revolution in the 1960s, and are proud individualists.

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Webinar Recordings for Couples and Parents of Young Children

I am currently offering recordings and transcripts of my webinars for couples and parents of young children. Below is the list of topics. If you’d like to order scroll to the bottom of this post.

1) Is My Marriage or Relationship Hurting My Children?

2) Five Steps to Fighting Fair: Learning How to Manage Marital or Couple Conflict

3) Why Children Can Change Marriage for the Worse: And What You Can Do to Protect Yours

4) The Worried Child: Helping Your Child Overcome Irrational Fears and Preoccupations

5) The Angry and Explosive Child: Balancing Love and Limits

6) Parenting Your Difficult Teenager: Drugs, Internet, Rebelliousness and Moodiness

7) The Worried Adult: Five Steps to Managing Worry, Preoccupation, and Fear

To learn more, to order individual seminars or to order the full series, go here

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Dual-Career Couples: Dr. Coleman Seminar at Harvard

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Dr. Coleman was invited to give a talk to the faculty and students on Dual-Career Couples at Harvard. He discussed his clinical experience working with dual-career couples and also  what research tells us about how couples and their children can benefit from sharing financial and household responsibilities.

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Radio Free Europe: Infidelity in the U.S.

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Dr. Coleman will be speaking to host Irene Bakchanyan on attitudes toward infidelity in the U.S. on Monday May 17.

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Estranged Parents Featured in NYT’s Article: When The Ties That Bind Unravel

Dear readers,

Today’s NYT’s featured an article on parental estrangement by one of my favorite journalists, Tara Parker-Pope. The article is one of the first I’ve seen that discusses the pain of estrangement from the parent’s perspective. She interviewed several people who post here on the When Parents Hurt forum. To read the full article, click here: Be sure to add your comments at the end of the article!

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Book Review: MIND IN THE MAKING: The Seven Essential Skills Every Child Needs, by Ellen Galinsky

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I have long been an admirer of Ellen Galinsky’s work. As president and co-founder of the Families and Work Institute, Ellen and her colleagues have  produced some of the most interesting and important findings on the relationship between work and family functioning that we have. I often cite her research in my interviews and she has become one of the most important go-to people in the field. So I was not surprised by how much I liked her new book, Mind in the Making: The Seven Essential Skills Every Child Needs.  Mind in the Making summarizes the best of what we know about how children develop the capacity for thinking, learning, developing good judgement, and succeeding in life. Unlike most parenting books, Mind in the Making backs up each one of its assertions with research on child development, neurology, and parenting. It is written in a warm, engaging style that reads more like a conversation with the reader than a
dry treatise on child development. Finally, and perhaps most importantly, Mind in the Making provides the reader with multiple ways to help a child develop the seven essential life skills that she describes. Highly recommended!

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How Common Are College Hook-Ups?

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Not as common as you might think. Researchers at Duke University spelled it out for a random sample of almost 1,500 students at the Durham, N.C., campus and found that only about one-third had had a hookup in college. Researchers surveyed 732 freshmen and 723 seniors and found that of the one-third in each grade that had had a hookup, less than half involved oral sex or intercourse. The study also found that nearly 60% of the freshmen reported that they had never had sexual intercourse. Click here to read the full article by journalist, Sharon Jayson.

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Dr. Coleman on Minnesota NPR: Men Are Stepping Up at Home

Hear Dr. Coleman’s interview with host Marianne Combs on Men Are Stepping Up at Home. He was joined by U. of Oregon sociologist, Scott Coltrane in the first half hour, author of the excellent book, FAMILY MAN: Fatherhood, Housework, and Gender Equity and noted Stanford sociologist Paula England.
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