When I Was Your Age, I Was an Adult! Huffington Post

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: November 13, 2007

I saw this caption in a recent New Yorker cartoon and thought that it captured the way that so many of today’s parents feel about their grown children. Have children become lazier? I don’t think so. When I was growing up, you didn’t have to go to college to be able to get a decent job, buy a house, and raise a family. Now even with a college degree, you’re lucky to find a good job in your field after college and, even then, it still may not pay enough to save up to buy a house and raise a family. Read More »

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Should I Cut My Adult Child Out of His Inheritance? Huffington Post

By Ari Salomon | Published: November 6, 2007

My children have refused to communicate with me for several years and I’m considering cutting them out of my will. Why would I be generous to children who won’t have anything to do with me. Read More »

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Seven Common Mistakes of Parenting Adult Children

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: October 30, 2007

In the past 100 years we have gone from seeing children as robust and benefiting from the rigors of life to seeing them as fragile and in need of protection. In addition, while parents in the early 20th century wanted their children to conform, respect the parents’ authority, and to fear them, today’s parents want their children to be independent and to love them. Many of today’s parents are confused about how involved or uninvolved they should be with their children when they leave the nest and are often hurt by the sometimes-sudden decrease in intimacy that comes with their independence. The following are suggested as recommendations to decrease conflict and increase closeness with your adult child. Read More »

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Sept 11: What Are You Afraid Of?

By Ari Salomon | Published: September 11, 2007

I assume that in my lifetime, I’ll see more than a few terrorist attacks like the one that occurred on 9/11. Some will be large, others small. I’m afraid of them, but more in the way that I’m afraid of falling off a cliff when I go hiking up a steep mountain: could happen to me, but it probably won’t. What scares me is the way that all of the non-stop terror talk contributes to a deterioration in our national character. Read More »

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Top 5 Signs You May be Heading for Divorce

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: August 30, 2007

Studies show that people typically wait six years too long to get into couple’s therapy. I am an eternal optimist, but waiting to get help is a dangerous undertaking. It allows too much time to build up new experiences of hurt, resentment, or alienation; experiences that can weaken the long-term bond of a relationship. Read More »

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Stepmothering: What You Need to Know

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: July 1, 2007

Being a stepmother is hard, and often, thankless work. While some stepmothers are able to establish close and comfortable relationships, many struggle with the role. In addition, children are typically more tolerant and accepting of stepfathers than stepmothers. Here are some important reasons why stepmothering can be such a struggle: Read More »

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Appearances: 2006

By Ari Salomon | Published: December 31, 2006

January 8
Keynote Speaker Lafayette Orinda Presbyterian Church

January 23
Mt Diablo Mother’s Club

April 6
Marin Parents of Multiples Club

April 25
How Children Affect Marriage for Better and For Worse
Keynote Speaker for The Saklan School

June 8
Novato Mother’s Club

July 9th, July 20
Washington Post Radio

October 5
GOOD MORNING AMERICA with Diane Sawyer and John Stossel

November 8
Sharing Housework and Parenting
San Ramon Library

Thursday
TODAY Show

Tuesday
NPR

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WHEN PARENTS HURT

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: December 14, 2006

Get advice and support from others who are struggling with adolescent or adult children who won’t talk to them or who are always critical and rejecting; parents whose partners or ex-spouses interfere with their being good parents; learning to forgive yourself for parenting mistakes; adolescent or adult children who aren’t in line to create a successful life.

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IMPERFECT HARMONY

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: December 14, 2006

A place for people who are considering divorce or for those who want to learn how to solve the conflicts in their marriage. Discuss how to recover from an affair, when should you divorce, when are children affected by divorce; how are children affected by troubled marriages, and other issues.

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MARRIED WITH TWINS

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: December 14, 2006

Talk to other parents who are trying to keep their marriages healthy while living in this very challenging environment.

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