I saw this caption in a recent New Yorker cartoon and thought that it captured the way that so many of today’s parents feel about their grown children. Have children become lazier? I don’t think so. When I was growing up, you didn’t have to go to college to be able to get a decent job, buy a house, and raise a family. Now even with a college degree, you’re lucky to find a good job in your field after college and, even then, it still may not pay enough to save up to buy a house and raise a family. Read More
My children have refused to communicate with me for several years and I’m considering cutting them out of my will. Why would I be generous to children who won’t have anything to do with me. Read More
In the past 100 years we have gone from seeing children as robust and benefiting from the rigors of life to seeing them as fragile and in need of protection. In addition, while parents in the early 20th century wanted their children to conform, respect the parents’ authority, and to fear them, today’s parents want their children to be independent and to love them. Many of today’s parents are confused about how involved or uninvolved they should be with their children when they leave the nest and are often hurt by the sometimes-sudden decrease in intimacy that comes with their independence. The following are suggested as recommendations to decrease conflict and increase closeness with your adult child. Read More
Studies show that people typically wait six years too long to get into couple’s therapy. I am an eternal optimist, but waiting to get help is a dangerous undertaking. It allows too much time to build up new experiences of hurt, resentment, or alienation; experiences that can weaken the long-term bond of a relationship. Read More
Being a stepmother is hard, and often, thankless work. While some stepmothers are able to establish close and comfortable relationships, many struggle with the role. In addition, children are typically more tolerant and accepting of stepfathers than stepmothers. Here are some important reasons why stepmothering can be such a struggle: Read More
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