TELESEMINAR SERIES FOR COUPLES AND PARENTS OF YOUNG CHILDREN AND TEENS
TELESEMINARS FOR ESTRANGED PARENTS
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2:17 pm
well said lola
9:52 am
FrankG
Your post is a well needed refreshing reminder of my own estranged child's immature attitude and cowardly behavior.
You've made my day and Thank you!
Helen Marie thank you for your post it's very inspiring.
11:05 pm
To FrankG
are you yourself a parent yet???
8:01 am
Thank you, Helen Marie. Beautiful post.
It describes exactly why I'm "estranged" from my parents. Estranged gives false hope because it sounds as if there is the option of reconciliation. There is nothing to reconcile, and a few years ago I finally recognized that and let go.
But it's hard to maintain this feeling of acceptance and benevolence when they or someone well-meaning acting on their behalf tries to effect contact. From what I've read of Dr. Coleman's, it seems he does a disservice to all parties when he encourages parents to continue attempting contact.
If parents really want to "show they're in for the long haul," they might try intense and painful work on themselves, in stead of actions that in many states qualify as stalking and harrassment.
6:50 am
It took me 12 months to get thru the grieving process of losing my ED, truly accepting it, and 'letting go'. I am now at peace with the situation, and can go on with my life. I will always love her, but I agree – life is much better without dealing with the ED issues. May you all be able to 'let go' and find peace too.
6:19 am
Thank you for posting what it means to 'let go'. Author unknown, but whoever it is, it was very well said. Having 'let go' of my daughter, the statements are true. Will always love her, but my life and those around me, is much better not dealing with my ED issues. It has allowed me to be free to be myself and give the attention to those I love and love me. Thanks.
5:27 pm
How true. Thank you for sharing.
1:32 pm
how very true what an amazing peice thanks for putting in on Helen Marie
12:54 pm
To 'let go' does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To 'let go' is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To 'let go' is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To 'let go' is not to try to change or blame another, it's to make the most of myself. To 'let go' is not to care for, but to care about. To 'let go' is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To 'let go' is not to be in the middle arranging the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies. To 'let go' is not to be protective, it's to permit another to face reality. To' let go' is not to deny, but to accept. To 'let go' is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them. To 'let go' is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes, and cherish myself in it. To 'let go' is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be. To 'let go' is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. To 'let go' is to fear less, and love more. (Author Unknown)
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