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This does sound like a nightmare, with allegations, rumours of abuse. How on earth can you prove that you didn't do anything? What about your daughters, will they stick up for you and just say that it didn't happen? Maybe your son is looking for a justification as to how he 's behaving. Are your daughters having contact with him. Sounds like the whole situation needs to be kept as calm as possible, in the most difficult of circumstances. Keep telling yourself what a good mom you were. Did you find the seminar helped? I did, though my circumtances with my daughter are no where near the same as yours. Think I came close to being estranged, but it hasn't happened. I've had some truly awful life experiences, cancer, husband waiting serious heart op, severely disabled son, younger brother who suddenly died, but if I'd become estranged from my daughter it would have been up there, possibly the worst of all, so I do really feel for you. Just keep using this site, try to be as strong as possible and carefully plan what to do next

I was close with my ex till the cut off. Now he won't speak to me. I tried to talk to him and we actually have run into eachother and when he sees me JW runs and hides. which is even stranger. My ex's wife has gotten people to stop talking to me as well. I know this because a mutual friend of mine told me and has to keep our relationship between us due to their daughters are beat friends. She's the one that told me she heard claims that me and my husband abused him. So untrue. I'm a great mother and very loving. A great grandmother too. I am so confused and feel very isolated. When my son was a teenager and he wouldn't talk to his father. I encouraged him. I think my ex is enjoying this.y daughter in law's mom called me once and threatened me for disrespecting her kid. What? The games… Just too much

I thought everything was fine. I feel she didn't like that I was the other woman in his life. I treated her well and since I have other daughters, I actually think I treated her better. I know why they claim they were mad the last day. However, it wasn't cut off material and I apologized over and over again. My son and her had a rocky time there for a while and I think I became the scape goat. I have heard really bizzare stories through the grapevine (not totally reliable sources) …abuse, things like that. I know that is not true. If so…why didn't it ever come up before and how come my other children are in as much confusion about this as me. It has tore our whole family apart.
I just want to have hope that after all the begging to talk to me, the "i miss you" the "Please son…." That I have a chance to work through this. I think the Daughter in law is pleased because he spends all his time with her family and now…his biological father has taken the number 1 seat in his life where it was a struggle for my son to even want to have a conversation with him. It's very strange how me, the closest one to him is completely non existent to him. I don't understand this and it is very depressing.

19 months ago….my adult son, married with a baby stopped talking to me. We were extremely close and after highschool his girlfriend got pregnant, lived with us for a short period of time, they got married….I thought everything was fine. Obviously it was not.
Since the cut off I called a lot, cried alot, begged alot. I wrote letters, I even asked other family members to find out why. He changed his # and moved. Still nothing from him.
Yesterday…I listened to the teleseminar…I did all those things wrong and that pushed him away probably further. I lived in fear. That was my son, my grandchild too. I am lost. So….My question??? What do I do now that for 19 months I did all the things that Dr. Coleman said not to do? Did I ruin my chances forever reconciling with my son? I don't even know why there is a cuttoff! Nobody knows. I'm horribly frightened and even more grief stricken. Help please if you can.