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Thank you to everyone on this forum
December 1, 2016
10:59 am
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It seems like such a personal sorrow to each of us grieving parents. The reality is that many, many parents don't see or hear from their adult children. So many are estranged. It can be that the former spouse does the estranging or it can be that the AC get mad that parents are no longer giving, giving, giving. And, it can be a mental health issue/problem. We feel alone but we are not alone. We baby boomers have wanted or needed more closeness than our parents usually wanted or needed and we see it as our role to over give and over love our kids into adulthood. Fred says it right. Its a generational shift that I am not sure is either good or bad. But estrangement has been going on for generations, my father did this to his parents. The difference is what Dr Coleman writes about, how previous generations seemed to think their kids had to earn the parents love while we seem to think we parents have to earn the kids love. And our kids feel it is their right to be catered to, and that mom and dad are supposed to give to them, just because they breathe air. As we enter this holiday season, my wish is for all of us to stay strong and realize that life is more than just about our kids. Our lives are about growing emotionally, having enjoyments of some kind, and making connections with our spiritual faith and other humans. It is not easy, this estrangement stuff. It breaks our hearts. But we are not alone. Here's an early wish for a Happy New Year to everyone reading this.

November 27, 2016
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Fred said
Good morning to all:

This weekend I was inundated with Thanksgiving movies. I reflected on the growth and insight that was bestowed on me from this free forum.

Thank you for making me stronger, kinder,less tearful, more objective, hopeful, more considerate, less reactionary,  more grateful, happier, and lastly, the profound help with my slowly, but most assuredly changing son.

Thank you to everyone!  Sometimes it does take a village.

Good morning Fred,

I would like to particularly thank you, such an understanding and encouraging response to my "Life a Waste" thread. It was posted a while ago and along with resources through this site and other supports through my local community, I am finding more clarity, and I trust, growth and acceptance.

When I first came across your response, my thoughts at the time reflected my new insight that life doesn't just deal us a set of cards as a once off, but "one hand is played, another is dealt...be mindful of the current hand of cards...Play as skilfully as possible, let go and focus on the next hand." It helped me anyhow.

It gives me hope to hear about your son, and yes "it does take a village".

November 27, 2016
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Good morning to all:

This weekend I was inundated with Thanksgiving movies. I reflected on the growth and insight that was bestowed on me from this free forum.

Thank you for making me stronger, kinder,less tearful, more objective, hopeful, more considerate, less reactionary,  more grateful, happier, and lastly, the profound help with my slowly, but most assuredly changing son.

Thank you to everyone!  Sometimes it does take a village.

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