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i have two kids one boy one girl and i was a doted dad until my ex ran off and since then i have had many battles through the courts to see them i got PR for them but contact was blocked many times sometimes strait after an order had been made. in 2009 i decided enough was enough after 10 years through the courts is enough for anybody i done everything asked of me repeatedly and still contact was unjustly blocked and no repercussions were ever placed on the mother. anyhow my daughter contacted me on fb just one month after i pulled away from this constant battle and we had a good relationship on fb but on the QC and she had got caught and grounded a few times, my ex is an un diagnosis ed borderline and has not a good relationship with her daughter but she is devoted to our son and this is having a detrimental affect on the kids interaction with each other our daughter get the blame for everything i think this is because she has expressed she wishes to see me and so i have now gone back to court to get access once again and the mum has accused me of all sorts again but worce is my 13 year old son is saying he want to stab me and has refused to talk to the cafcass guardian and handed her a note stating he wants nothing more to do with me. this has hit me for 6 i can tell ya i have never done anything to him for him to be expressing these kind of thoughts and just two years ago we got on so well on staying contact at mine, i understand he may feel rejected but i tried so hard for many years and he knows how hard i tried to keep seeing them, but the stories they used to tell me about how they were treated my their mother i felt compelled to bring these issues to the authorities and here's the issues everything i reported she just lied and covered it up saying i'm mentally unstable lol but its not funny. i have a daughter who's getting into trouble with the police and has been arrested and charged with shop-lifting at just 14 years old. for 6 years both children wished to come live with me 220 miles away as they saw i treated them equal and boy i had a fight in the court arena the mum lied through her teeth just to win im sure she cares none for the children but is just keeping them to spite me and its well known to cafcass that my daughters relationship with her mother is futile but what have they recommended that i have 6 monitored contact sessions with my daughter what a joke my daughters future is going down the pan and my son is so Alienated against his dad, my children need rescuing and noone is listening even all the facts i put to the judge has just been washed over thinly. the facts i have about this mother is endless and im just baffled how the people who are put in place to protect the children are so easily misled and have lapped up her lies as polarizing the issue is only benefiting the mother who is legal aided and reliant on benefits, and the system that just seams to hate caring dads. i'm losing my son i can feel it i know i'm ok with my daughter but she need healing to from all the negativity aimed at her witch is reflecting in her behavior but i'm so worried about my son as this brain-washing i know is so damaging and it seams there's nothing i can do to help him. :~(

Seasons said:

Yes, all three of my older children rejected me on some level as teenagers. I tried very hard to find common ground with them. Lol, I even joined World of Warcraft to play with them and I am far from interested in video games. I kept the account for three years and spent many online hours battling fictitous monsters at their virtual side. Now, I am belittled for it.

wow…that sounds like my story! Well, not World of Warcraft (although I probably would have done that). I used to go to endless teen themed horror movies and even watched the "Saw" movies which was pretty bad. Believe me, I was not a happy camper but I thought it would give us something to "do together". She doesn't belittle me for it now, she just doesn't acknowledge that it ever happened.

It felt to me as if my son rejected me right from birth. When I held my baby, he would squirm and yell to get away. When someone else picked him up, he cooed and smiled. People said it was because I was a first time mother and he sensed my nervousness. I don't believe that for a minute. Every mother was a first time mother at one point and I expect most were nervous. When he was a child, I had my own difficulties that lead to poor parenting practices — so my son's decision to reject me later on stems mainly from that, I am sure. Nevertheless, I believe me was not predisposed to warm up to me from the start.