Wow, Broken… that really speaks to the pain, anger and utter devastation we all feel.  We all need to draw support and express our rollercoaster of emotions.  Thank you.

Painshared,

That reflected the harm done by ex to the lives of our children, me, and both of our families near and far . . .

Where did this come from? I mean, did you write it?

Thank you.

Dear Pain Shared and Dianne,

I too share the struggle that you are both going through.  I don't understand how or why the children we've raised treat us like this.  There was no abuse or issues my daughter had when she was being raised.  Everything was good and people around us don't understand either.  I have to say that I see this behavior becoming more and more familiar and we must be there for one another.  Knowing that there are others with the same questions and feelings I have helps me cope better also.  Please continue to share on this page so we can help one another.  The hurt we're endearing is so unfair and we need to know there are other's out there with the same feelings.  Let's make 2013 a better year.

Jane

I've been up since 4 in the morning unable to sleep because I can't believe I haven't seen my son or granddaughter for 6 months and will not be seeing them at Christmas. We have been excluded by a daughter-in-law who wants nothing to do with us, and therefore does not want our son to as well. I'm looking at a pile of unwrapped Christmas presents in the corner of my dining room. On top of the pile is a beautiful dress I bought for my 2 and 1/2 year old granddaughter that I know she will never wear or even see. I hide my pain because its just too embarrassing to tell people that your son no longer bothers with you at his wife wishes. We have a daughter as well. She was always close to her brother…we were such a happy family and I am at a loss as to how to fix this. We've tried apologizing (for what we don't know), sending cards and messages but nothing. I spent for days in hospital 3 months ago and yet did not receive a call from my son. I'm not looking forward to Christmas but will put on a happy face for my daughter, son-in-law, and grandson. I thought my daughter-in-law was a good person who cared about us and our family but since having a child things changed. We were no longer included in events or holidays. If we planned something for our family we were told they would come only to be called at the last minute saying something came up and they couldn't make it. This has been going on for the past few years when suddenly 8 months ago they called us up out of the blue and started yelling and screaming at us…we up to that point had never even had an argument. If we did call our son he always put it on speaker phone. We can't write him…she's been know to throw out the mail, and read his phone and test messages. I don't know how to put my family back together. She makes a point to make sure she is nice to extended family and friends so that it appears we are wrong about her. They literally drove by our house last Christmas morning to go to our brother-in-laws before even coming here, ate dinner at left shortly afterward. I would just like to skip the holidays altogether.