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Seriously, I cannot even suggest my husband do anything to help us around the house without suffering the wrath of his reaction to even the mention of it. I’ll come home at the end of the day (he works at home) and the house will reek of garbage because he won’t even take the trash out all day no matter how bad it smells. He just complains about how messy things are. He also complains that I don’t do a thorough job, that I don’t cook good enough, that I am a bad housekeeper, and that I’m not good in bed. He has very high standards for a lazy slob. He won’t even help with heavy work, like the yard work and really expects me to take care of it all. I work at several part time jobs, am working on a masters degree so I can go out and get a job that will pay so someone else can do all this bull work, plus I help him with his business at a moment’s notice. I have a 6 year old son and am a very involved parent, teaching him to read beyond his grade level and attending all activities. I take care of all the bills, a vegetable garden, pets, shopping, meal prep (he expects gourmet meals and homemade deserts). He also wants me to cook high quality dog food for our dogs. He wants me to even prepare his breakfast and lunch since he works at home. When I try to set limits he acts like I am unreasonable. I have no money to hire help — even for such things as carpet cleaning, which I also do. I am so tired of his constant needs. I feel like am am going to have a heart attack from overwork. When I tell him this, he thinks I’m exagerating, but I’m not. I’m aging rapidly from this slave work. Somebody help me, please.

I forgot to add that he is irresponsible with money and will not help me put together a family budget. He spends money on luxuries when our obligations are not met. So the pittance I earn working hard part time is usually needed to bail us out of a hole he dug us into. What’s worse, he acts like I somehow created it since I do all the household bill paying and grocery shopping, which is all the “spending” I do. He thinks that because he is the main bread winner, I am somehow not entititled to decide how our money is spent and that I am trying to spoil his good time by reminding him that we need to meet our financial responsibilities first. And certainly I am not entitled to rest like he is.

Sooooo like I said in my previous post….. help me please. Should I just go back to work ASAP so I can get a handle on things…. But then my son won’t have me to be there for him.