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Dear Dr. Coleman,

I have been married for almost seven years and have two daughters 6 and 3. My husband and I have fought over the household division of labor ever since my first child was born. The twist is it is him always upset with me that I am not doing enough. He grew up in a home where the wife did everything and the husband went to work, came home and watched tv. He gets very angry if I want to relax or watch tv myself. He complains that since he works on the outside of the house that the inside is my responsibility, mind you that I do all the household finances, take take of our kids needs, the shopping, the cooking, the deep cleaning and work full time. I think I am doing a really good job and I feel like I am never good enough for him. I rarely want to be intimate with him because of the last 6 years of him making me feel inadequate as a women and mother, then he feels rejected as we grow further apart. I think we are in a downward spiral and the only thing that saves us is inbetween the arguements and crying we have a great time together, we laugh a lot, we see eye to eye on parenting and genuinely care for one another. I would have a great marriage if he appreciated me for the great mother, wife and person I feel I am. Am I totally out of bounds here? Am I too sensitive like he says? Thank you for your advice, Shawna