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In desperation, I Googled Very Lazy Husbands and came upon your site. It has a few good suggestions, but I am doubtful they will change our circumstances. My husband hasn’t worked in the last two years and has only put his resume out twice. He sits in front of the tv and his computer all day and night. He does the grocery shopping. Period.

I work full time, have an editing contract business I work on 2-3 hours in the evening, and take in exchange students to supplement our income. It is still barely enough to make ends meet.

He gets a partial pension (he’s 54). We both ussed to work fulltime, but I always took care of the house and kids. I’ve heard all of the excuses other’s have, why he couldn’t help me after work and on weekends.

I feel so betrayed by him. I never would have married him if I knew he was like this. I am not a critical wife. I only mention the sorrow this has caused me once or twice a year to him. I have gone to counsellors, but have found no real solution.

I cannot understand why a healthy, able-bodied male could be so selfish and cruel to his wife. I am a Christian, or I’m sure I would’ve left him for someone else a long time ago. I am planning on leaving him in one year, when our last child leaves home for college. If he dies before I leave him, I will feel only one emotion: relief.

This is his one “vice”, but it has destroyed what could have been a wonderful relationship.