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So sorry to hear of your troubles. Take heart in the fact that you have your children who love you, and your husband who does also. Divorce is the gift that keeps on giving. But we have to remember that without the pain of divorce, we wouldn't know happiness. I hope it all came out ok with you, and that you can find peace in knowing you are doing what you can for your family.

I am 44 years old. My husband is 46.
I have one child 18 who is mentally handicap and together my husband and I have a 9 year old.
I have 2 step children , my husbands children, by another marriage.
Step son is 20 and step daughter is 21.
My step son has taken it upon himself to stop talking to us. We are not sure why. We can only speculate.
His real mother has gotten 2 partial loans in 2 years so he can go to college. Plus added him on her car insurance for his car and also cell phone. My husband and I can't afford to do this.
We invited my step son to my daughters graduation BBQ this summer and he was a no show. Since then my husbands birthday and our 9 year olds birthday rolled around and step son was invited but still a no show.

And just last week my step daughter ,who works at my sons elementary school, took my son to the counceler at the school because my son was upset. Now social services have been called and my son was questioned. We my husband and I were also questioned as well. My son had a scratch on his shoulder and my step daughter saw it. She asked my son how it got there. And my son told her that "Dad was telling him to get ready and get dressed for school. And he wasn't listening. So my husband went and put his hand on his arm to get him up so he can get dressed and his hand slipped and it scratched my son on the shoulder". Well for some reason my step daughter said, " no, no you know your mom and dad fight its not your fault".
Well also that morning all of this happened my husband asked me if I could give him $25. All the people at his job were getting together for Christmas and putting in $25 ea. so they can get the owner of this business something nice for the holidays. We didn't have the money and I told my husband we didn't have $25. This made me cry because we are low on money.
So that morning when I left my son off at school he saw that I was upset and he was upset for me and worried about me, his mother. That was the only reason he was upset.
For some reason my step daughter started this whole thing. We don't know why. We were just talking the weekend before. Now we are not talking at all.
Now my step daughters mother just co-signed for her to get a newer vehicle and is on her mothers cell phone plan as well. Like I said my husband and I can't afford to do this.
To make matters worse my step daughter is pregnant and she is due to have our first grandchild in Mar.. She has told her father that she wouldn't have left the grandchild off with us anyway. OUCH, now this really hurts.
So its Christmas time and we have lost 2 children. My 2 step children. I feel like I am greving. I feel so dead inside. I feel so bad for my husband.
I did talk with the vise principle at the elementary school and he didn't know that my step daughter and my son were half brother and sister. And I got an appology from the school counceler. He said he didn't know that the vise principle had called social services on us. He knew that the scratch on my sons shoulder was an accident. As for social services ,well, we are still waiting for them to do there report.
We never got an appology from my step daughter. She is determined she is right.
Tons of hurt here. I don't know what to do.
I have a son who from time to time cries for his 1/2 brother. And now I know he will cry for his 1/2 sister also.