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Hello, I am a very confused mother of 7 year old identical twin boys. They are very strong willed boys, sensitive and emotional, and are also gifted (IQ in the 130's). They do have behavioral problems in school sometimes.They are in separate classes. When they are interested in school and like their environment they thrive and are attentive. When they are not interested or unhappy with the teacher or environment they have behavioral issues and distracted like children with ADHD. But its only limited to that particular environment. They are very sensitive and their environment and emotions seem to control their behavior. It seems that every year it switches in which twin thrives in school and which one is having attention/behavioral issues in school. My son who is having behavioral/attention issues this year had an amazing year last year and last year's teacher said he had no attention problems. And my son who is doing well this year had a difficult time last year in school and inattentiveness. The teachers every year think they are completely different in their behavior. This goes back since preschool. And it's not just school, but in other situations outside of school as well. This is extremely confusing for us as parents and we are having such a hard time figuring them out and how to help them. They are both loving and very well behaved in certain situations and very badly behaved in other situations. They are rarely behaved the same relative to eachother in the same situation. So could their switching of behaviors be partly because they are identical twins and this is how they compete for attention? When one behaves good the other behaves bad? Please help.