TELESEMINAR SERIES FOR COUPLES AND PARENTS OF YOUNG CHILDREN AND TEENS
TELESEMINARS FOR ESTRANGED PARENTS
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NPR: Tom Ashbrook interviews Dr Coleman and Kathleen Gerson on “Women Bringing Home the Bacon”
Dr. Coleman was invited to speak to the faculty and students on Dual-Career Couples at Harvard in November 2010
NY Times: Working Women Say Their Marriage Is Richer For It
Forum
Must we tell the children the divorce is a mutual decision?
June 29, 2011
AF
Robin…
My wife recently decided to leave with our 3 young children. I love my wife more than anything and would do anything to save our marriage. My wife says that she does not love me anymore and is not interested in saving our marriage. I have to say that I agree with you…I want my children to understand the sanctity of marriage, and that I would never want to tear apart the home that they were so happy in until now. Happy, smiling, bubbling children that loved both of their parents…that have now become glazed over, and keep asking me when they and mom are going to move back home. It's hard to be ok with saying I would agree to subjecting them to this.
March 5, 2010
Robin
I recently saw your appearance on ABC-TV where you stated that it is important for both parents, no matter what the circumstances leading to deciding to divorce, to tell the children it is a mutual decision. I can understand your reason for this yet I have this question. For me, choosing to divorce is a destruction of a child's safe, protected, secure world of a stable family. I would like them to think that at least one of the most important people in their lives would not choose to do that to them but sought to preserve their world as they knew it. I do not want them to be angry at their father, I would seek to encourage their relationship as much as I am able. But somehow making it appear as if we are both willingly breaking up their home makes me feel they are left feeling that their security is not important enough to either one of their parents. I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. Thank you.