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Greetings,
 In our “soul mate” culture, people are often made to feel as though they are existential cowards if they choose to remain in a marriage that they would leave if they didn’t have children. While each person has to weigh the pro’s and con’s, there are many perfectly valid reasons why someone would choose to remain married rather than go through a divorce. Here are seven:


1) You like being a full-time parent and believe that it’s worth the sacrifice of the romantic life that you’d also like and may never get with the person whom you married. You realize that you can have one and not the other, and you choose being a full-time parent


2) You fear the downward mobility that can happen with divorce, especially for many women

3) Your partner is a great parent, even if he or she is a not-so-great romantic partner


4) You wouldn’t trust your children with your partner in a shared custody arrangement


5) You believe that your children need you around on a daily basis to counter the psychological problems of your partner


6) Your culture or religion forbids it.


7) You’re going through a crisis and and are hopeful that the two of you will be able to work it out, some day.
These are all perfectly valid reasons to remain married.
Have I left any out?


Joshua