Comments for Dr. Joshua Coleman

Comment on IMPERFECT HARMONY by Dr. Joshua Coleman

Dr. Joshua Coleman — Sat, 06 Mar 2010 18:44:02 +0000

Hi Mamalia,

It’s a good question and one that I think will benefit others, so I’ll answer later today and post on the home page. Thank you for writing.
Josh

Comment on IMPERFECT HARMONY by Mamalia

Mamalia — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 23:06:14 +0000

I recently saw your appearance on ABC-TV where you stated that it is important for both parents, no matter what the circumstances leading to deciding to divorce, to tell the children it is a mutual decision. I can understand your reason for this yet I have this question. For me, choosing to divorce is a destruction of a child’s safe, protected, secure world of a stable family. I would like them to think that at least one of the most important people in their lives would not choose to do that to them but sought to preserve their world as they knew it. I do not want them to be angry at their father, I would seek to encourage their relationship as much as I am able. But somehow making it appear as if we are both willingly breaking up their home makes me feel they are left feeling that their security is not important enough to either one of their parents. I would really appreciate your thoughts on this. Thank you.

Comment on WHEN PARENTS HURT by Ari Salomon

Ari Salomon — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 20:18:47 +0000

I look forward to reading comments in the new forum…

Comment on When Parents Hurt by Parenting Education & Parent Resources « Parental Alienation Support: Help & Hope

Fri, 26 Feb 2010 03:51:38 +0000

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Comment on Today Show by Dr. Joshua Coleman

Dr. Joshua Coleman — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 18:35:24 +0000

Hi Mike,

Thanks for writing. Glad you liked the show.
Josh

Comment on Today Show by mike jeffries

mike jeffries — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 23:31:19 +0000

Hi…

Just ran across your interview on the Today Show where you talked about parental alienation. Nice job. Thanks for raising the visibility of an issue that is affecting countless parents, children and extended family members every year.

Keep up the great work!

Sincerely,

mike jeffries
Author, A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation

Comment on When Parents Hurt: Parental Alienation: View from the Bay by mike jeffries

mike jeffries — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 15:14:42 +0000

Great interview! Good luck with the book.

Best,

mike jeffries
Author, A Family’s Heartbreak: A Parent’s Introduction to Parental Alienation.

Comment on Why Do Marriages Fail? by Kathi Sizemore

Kathi Sizemore — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 19:26:31 +0000

Joshua: If I can find a coach that can help me stick to it and realize my lifetime dream (even though I am 65!!!) of finishing my education, I am ready to make a commitment. In the past, I quit in order to serve the needs of everyone else. I just do not think I am strong enough to put my needs in front of my husband’s and my children/grandchildren’s. The lack of education and a degree haunt me every day in the lifestyle I live in and professional people I am surrounded by. I would like a degree in journalism. More even with my own husband, whom I feel would listen to me better and respect me more If I could have the necessary communication tools to express in a more intelligent dialogue and have something worthwhile to talk about besides what he wants for dinner. I am in a position to pay a coach, I just do not know how to find one. I think lots of women my age who had the tables turned on them in middle age are in the same boat. When we came through, someone changed the rules. Instead of it being enough to be a mother and grandmother, now we were expected to also be educated. It is so incredibly hard for those of us that are pure nurtures to put a limit on “their” needs to fulfill our own needs that are outside of the family. Can you help?? You made me feel so much better when we had the phone appointment and you are my hope. I do not expect your time to be given freely. Not having a college education (outside a few classes here and there through the years), makes me feel inferior intellectually and personally.

Thank you.
Kathi Sizemore

P.S. Always enjoy hearing you and reading your advice!! it is always right on!! Experience helps expression and understanding!

Comment on WHEN PARENTS HURT by JillB

JillB — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 01:53:54 +0000

YES! Shattered Dreams by Larry Crabb is an excellent book. It is wonderful and a great thing for anyone here to read in dealing with the ultimate shattered dream, having your child turn their back on you. I too must daily remind myself to turn them over to God. I pray the prayer that Samuels mother prayed over him, from the Bible….with respect to Scripture i sometimes change a few words to fit my situation.

“Lord, for this child I have prayed and you, Lord, have heard. Protect, guide, and heal their hearts and our relationship. I thank You! You gave him/her to me…and I give him/her to you….all the days of their lives.”

Comment on WHEN PARENTS HURT by Lin

Lin — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 21:24:25 +0000

Judith, Jill and others – reading your stories mirrors mine, only I have a son who is unbelievably mean and I seriously think he doesn’t really know anymore why he hates me so much but when his wife and her step mom keep telling him how terrible I am, he has come to believe everything they say. This year I decided that I would turn him TOTALLY over to God. Every time I get a thought to try a new approach, i.e. with email, card, etc., I remind myself I cannot do that since I made a commitment to let go and that has helped. Will we ever have him back in our lives? Probably not but for the first time in almost 3 years, I feel I can move forward. This is a perfect time to remind ourselves we have worth and will not accept anything but love from these wayward “adult-in-training” children.