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New Teleseminar Series on Alienated and Estranged Parents

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: January 15, 2012

Hi,

I’m starting a new series Tuesday, Jan 17th for alienated and estranged parents. The first one is FREE. Once you register, you’ll get info about how to access the seminar, ask questions, and make payment.

Here’s the schedule:

WEEK ONE: Jan. 17th
10AM PST, 11AM Mountain, 12PM Central, 1PM EDT
FIVE MOST COMMON MISTAKES OF ESTRANGED PARENTS

WEEK TWO: JAN 24
10AM PST, 11AM Mountain, 12PM Central, 1PM EDT

DEALING WITH YOUR DIFFICULT
SON- OR DAUGHTER-IN-LAW
The Do’s and Don’ts of Handling Difficult DILs and SILs

WEEK THREE: JAN 31ST
10AM PST, 11AM Mountain, 12PM Central, 1PM EDT

SHOULD I KEEP TRYING OR JUST GIVE UP?
Learning the signs

WEEK FOUR: FEB 7TH
10AM PST, 11AM Mountain, 12PM Central, 1PM EDT
HOW TO STOP BLAMING YOURSELF
AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE
Dealing with Guilt, Anger, Sorrow, and Regret

WEEK FIVE: FEB 14TH
10AM PST, 11AM Mountain, 12PM Central, 1PM EDT

THE RIGHT AND WRONG WAY TO MAKE AMENDS
A Step-by-Step Program

WEEK SIX: FEB 21ST
10AM PST, 11AM Mountain, 12PM Central, 1PM EDT

HANDLING DISRESPECT AND ABUSE
Parenting through Role Modeling

WEEK SEVEN: FEB 28TH
10AM PST, 11AM Mountain, 12PM Central, 1PM EDT
WHAT COULD THEY POSSIBLY BE THINKING?
Understanding Estrangement from
The Adult Child’s Perspective

To register or learn more about the series, go here

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Webinar Recordings for Couples and Parents of Young Children

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: September 10, 2011

I am currently offering recordings and transcripts of my webinars for couples and parents of young children. Below is the list of topics. If you’d like to order scroll to the bottom of this post.

1) Is My Marriage or Relationship Hurting My Children?

2) Five Steps to Fighting Fair: Learning How to Manage Marital or Couple Conflict

3) Why Children Can Change Marriage for the Worse: And What You Can Do to Protect Yours

4) The Worried Child: Helping Your Child Overcome Irrational Fears and Preoccupations

5) The Angry and Explosive Child: Balancing Love and Limits

6) Parenting Your Difficult Teenager: Drugs, Internet, Rebelliousness and Moodiness

7) The Worried Adult: Five Steps to Managing Worry, Preoccupation, and Fear

To learn more, to order individual seminars or to order the full series, go here

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Parents of Mentally Ill Children: “What If He Were Your Kid?”

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: January 15, 2011

Dr. Coleman was asked by CNN.com to write a piece about the parents of Jared Loughner and other parents who have had similar kinds of struggles. Here it is:

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What if he were your kid? You wouldn’t raise that kind of kid. You’d know the signs and get help. You’d have spotted it early on and gotten help for him right away. You would’ve seen the warnings and acted before it became the national tragedy that it did. Good parents don’t raise those kinds of kids.
But, what if you’re a good parent and you didn’t see the signs and you did raise that kind of kid, or at least some kid like that? Read More »

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Radio Free Europe: Infidelity in the U.S.

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: May 26, 2010
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Dr. Coleman will be speaking to host Irene Bakchanyan on attitudes toward infidelity in the U.S. on Monday May 17.

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Intelligent Investing: Preventing Your Emotions from Ruining Your Portfolio: Maheras Wealth Management

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: March 31, 2010
337/365: The Big Money
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Dr. Coleman will be presenting a workshop on the ways that emotions can interfere with sound judgment in the market. The talk will review some of the findings from the exciting new field of Neuroeconomics. For more information, please contact
Leonidas Maheras, CFP®, CIMA®, CRPC®
Principal, Branch Manager
155 Bovet Road, Suite 455
San Mateo, CA 94402
Tel: 650-525-0600
Fax:650-525-0610
Toll Free: 888-525-0602
lmaheras@mwm09.com
www.mwm09.com

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Advice for Couples: Self-Soothing

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: February 23, 2010

One of the most important behaviors that you have to learn to be in a couple is the ability to soothe yourself when you get hurt or provoked.  If you grew up in a family that was chaotic or where there was ongoing neglect or abuse, this will likely require more effort on your part than if your parents were loving and supportive. This is because the ability to self-soothe is typically something that we internalize from our caregivers.

Here are a few recommendations when you start to get upset:

* Breathe slowly and deeply.

* Pay attention to your self-talk. Don’t catastrophize or generalize. Assume that your spouse or partner has their own valid reasons for their feelings or behaviors, however inexpertly expressed.

* Use a soothing tone when you talk to yourself, much as you would when trying to calm a distressed child.

* Take a time-out so you can collect your thoughts and give your physiology time to settle. Studies show that once your heart rate goes even 10 beats per minute faster than usual your ability to think begins to decrease.

If you have a very difficult time regulating your emotions in relationships, find a therapist and work on it. Expecting a partner to always be able to soothe you can unfairly burden your relationship.

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Your Difficult Child May Be Your Most Successful Child

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: February 11, 2010

Every parent with more than one child knows that similar parenting does not always produce similar children. Children come into the world genetically blessed or cursed with traits that may either serve them or put them into harm’s way. Recent research has helped identify the genes that cause some children to be more resilient regardless of how they are treated by their parents. Researchers refer to them as “dandelion children” referencing the notion that they can bloom in almost any environment. Common-sense would predict that these kids would be the most successful. And often they are. They are only surpassed in adulthood by a group of children that are being labelled “orchid children.” These children require far more careful parental intervention and nurturance, but when they do, can bloom spectacularly. Read More »

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What Do Kids Really Think About Their Working Parents?

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: February 10, 2010

On Feb 10th,  I was on Fem2.0 Blog Radio with host Ellen Galinsky and guest Lisa Belkin.  Ellen Galinsky is President and Co-Founder of the Families and Work Institute and author of the forthcoming book, MINDS IN THE MAKING: The Seven Essential Skills Every Child Must Learn (HarperStudio). Lisa Belkin is a New York Times Magazine writer and author of the popular Motherlode blog at the New York Times. She is also the author of three books, including “Life’s Work: Confessions of an Unbalanced Mom.” It was a really stimulating discussion and I highly recommend it.

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Sesame Street

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: February 7, 2010

Shifting Roles During the Economic Downturn

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Fighting in Front of the Children

By Dr. Joshua Coleman | Published: February 4, 2010

Many parents worry about whether they’re hurting their kids by fighting in front of them. Join Dr. Coleman on View from the Bay as he discusses the Do’s and Don’ts!

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